Saturday, December 15, 2007

2 Reasons to Quit Being a Control Freak


Welcome to my Friday newsletter!

This issue features:
Our 7 Day Best of 2007 Special is almost over
How to hook up with us
Writing for the Web Class deadline approaching
Listen to our Tuesday call About the Entrepreneurs at Home news
Mark Joyner this Monday, Rheas Proteges Special
More Encouragement Is Coming!


The Best of 2007
I thought about sending you a formal Christmas letter this week giving you a recap of the whole year. But when I looked at all the cool things my team and I have done this year, personally, I was amazed!

I thought you might be interested in the education we provided this year so we threw together a page web with a special offer.

But… it’s only good for 7 Days. And that is through Thursday, Dec. 20.

We covered 3 conferences, 2 ebooks, 5 web sites and there are 10 bonuses!

So check it out now, before it’s gone forever:
http://www.EducatingforSuccess.com/2007


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Join Us!

If you want to make 2008 even better than 2007, let us help you get clear vision and specific education so you can make it happen. Just enter your name and email address in the box at the left.

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Learn How to Write for the Web from Home

This week, one of our transcribing clients had us work on a major rewriting project. We had to pull some extra workers in to finish it.

We really need some writers and editors to help with all this work. If you are good with words, grammar and spelling, consider taking our Writing for the Web Class in January and February so that you can be considered for working with us.

The deadline is midnight, Sunday, December 30. But don’t wait till then to register; the class is filling up and there are a limited number of seats.

We’ve also set up the class in 2 payments so if you register this week, your second payment won’t even be due until the middle of January.

The early birds who registered have already started receiving their training!

So if you want to write from home, learn more here:
http://www.EducatingforSuccess.com/webwriter

The Proteges can take this class for half price.


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Listen to Last Tuesday’s Yahoo! Group Call

The call we hosted Tuesday about our Yahoo! Group – the Entrepreneurs at Home – is online.

Look for it in the left nav bar at:
http://www.eahlive.com/

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Hear Mark Joyner Monday Night!

This Monday night, December 17, Mark Joyner, one of the pioneers of the Internet, will be my guest as we discuss Guerilla Marketing.

If you’d like to hear that call, you can join our Protégé Program until midnight, Sunday Dec. 23, for just $497 down and not $147 but just $97/ month.

Plus, you will get a 3 Month Special. From December through the end of February, you can participate in 4 Membership Sites that provide real living education totally for FREE!

They are:
BasicAccountingForSmallBusiness.com

SteppingThroughGrief.com

MarriagePrepOnline.com

HealthyFoodForHealthyLiving.com

If you’re ready to make 2008 something special, we can help!

Learn more here: http://www.rheasproteges.com/

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If Moses Delegated, So Should You!
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2 Reasons to Quit Being a Control Freak


Have you ever felt that you were led by God (or your boss at work … or your spouse) to do a good thing but before long, you felt like the burden was just too great to bear?

I have.

You know you’re doing something that is very necessary and you know others are counting on you, but you find yourself thinking way too often, “It’s too much to handle.”

Well, if that’s where you are, you are in good company. Moses found himself in the same situation.

God told him to judge the actions of the Israelites so he did. Every day, he would sit to judge the people from “morning until night” and tell them if what they were doing was right or wrong according to God’s ways. They were all dependent on him.

(And Moses was in training for reigning in heaven.)

Then his father-in-law Jethro came along one day and said, “What are you doing? You are going to wear out yourself and wear out the people (They are going to get tired of you.)”

So Jethro said, “Represent the people before God and bring their cases before Him. Also,
teach the people the decrees and laws show them the way they must walk show them the work they must do “Choose able men, God-fearing men of truth who hate unjust gain and place them over thousands, hundreds, fifties, and tens to be their rulers. And let them judge the people at all times.”

So he did.

Now, let’s look at this situation.

* Moses took his assignment seriously and didn’t even consider asking anyone else to help.
Ever done that?

* The people didn’t know the law and weren’t trained to do their jobs because they looked to Moses for all leadership.
Ever done it all yourself because it was “easier”?

* Even though Moses was God’s man at the time, his father-in-law had vision for his life that he didn’t have.
Ever been blind about matters in your own life even though it’s easy to see what others should do?

* When the judges started helping Moses, more than likely they felt the sense of purpose that comes when a person contributes to an important project.
Ever been guilty of robbing others of that inner satisfaction because you didn’t let them help?

Think about how these concepts could apply in your situation with your children or with the people you work with or in other organizations.

Too often, we perfectionists carry all the burdens of a project we believe we have been given from God and try do it all ourselves. When others ask if they can help, we say, “No, we’re good.”
We don’t realize that, like Moses, we will wear ourselves out doing good works while robbing others of the blessing and satisfaction that comes with contributing to an important project.

Our purpose as leaders or parents then is to train those around us to do their part so they can help with the larger project, not just do it all ourselves.

Our goal is to create a light in the eyes of those we are responsible to train.

When you see the light that comes from a deep inner satisfaction in someone you’ve invested in by training, you have succeeded. You have done your job. You have accomplished the main goal.
So, work to create light in the eyes of others.

You might just discover that someone else can do that job just as well … or maybe even better…than you!

And you won’t go to bed as tired anymore.

So many books, so little time...
Rhea!
who is still learning this lesson the hard way

P.S. Feel free to forward this note to others.
P.P.S. Watch for more encouragement next Friday!

1 comment:

Jeanne said...

Hi Rhea...

Wow can I identify with that post! I was thinking the other day how solo I am -- not always by choice but by circumstance. I'm an only child, I'm a psychologist and have always been self-employed (I do have input and referrals from others), the work I do now is on my own, no one I know has a website or a blog (except the people I know from being online)... and over years all this has made me relatively self-sufficient!

So yeah... most times I've had to do it on my own! But it's amazing... when I've gone through personal crises like I have recently with my father dying, people have not done things for me (again I was the one that had to organise things) but they have picked up some of the pieces to make the journey a little easier.

At times I struggle with control issues... but I'm quickly learning that while I'm self-sufficient in many parts my life it is such a wonderful feeling not to have to do absolutely everything yourself.

There are times that you just have to let go of trying to control the situation and trust in the universe. I'm getting quite good at that now.

Best wishes
Jeanne
http://www.aspirationsplus.com